You Become Like the People You Hang With


You should know this, Timothy, that in the last days there will be very difficult times. For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred. They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good. They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God. They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that!
2 Timothy 3:1-5

Read the list again. It’s getting harder to find people who aren’t like that.

Someone asked me to help him handle the rejection he was experiencing. From what I know about him, he does some of the above things and hangs out with people like him. They hurt and betray each other. I gently told him he’s probably choosing friends who hurt each other, and he should ask God to search his character for what he’s doing that hinder healthy friendships and choose some new friends.

You become like the people you hang out with. That’s not a new thought. Take heed to what Paul has written. It’s easy to “fall in love” with whoever you hang out with.  Choose your friends wisely from the beginning. If the above list describes any of your friends, set some healthy boundaries. Gently move away from them if necessary. Build deep, rich friendships with people who are pursuing honorable lives.

When searching for leaders, look not only at their lives, but who their friends are.