A Mother’s Advice to Her Son Who is a King


O my son, O son of my womb, O son of my vows, do not waste your strength on women, on those who ruin kings. Proverbs 31:2,3

Occasionally, we see a good king who wants advice from godly counselors. However, most kings don’t take advice from anyone, except perhaps their mother.

Sometimes my sons accept advice from their mother that they won’t take from me or anyone else. Here, a king’s mother offers her son advice about women. Since she also is a woman, she must have been a noble, godly woman. Praise the mother who gives her sons advice about women.

Many men are wired to objectify women to gratify a moment of release from stress. Perhaps they then blame the woman because she’s a woman. Many strong and influential men have fallen into this pit. Think about Samson with Delilah, David with Bathsheba, and Solomon with his many idol-worshiping wives.

When a man is living below his potential, look for what could be robbing his strength. Perhaps you’ll discover a childhood wound, an addiction, or a wrong desire for a woman. She can be his girlfriend, wife, someone else’s wife, or a fantasy woman. Men so desperately want a woman’s love and attention, they’ll waste their wealth, sell their souls, lie, cheat, and kill, mar their reputations, and destroy their family and future for a moment of a woman’s undivided attention and affection.

Not even a king can withstand the devastating consequences that come from yielding to his wrong desires for a woman.

Think about all the powerful men who have recently fallen because they followed their ungodly desires.

In Greek mythology, Sirens were beautiful but dangerous creatures. They were known for seducing sailors with their sweet voices, and, by doing so, luring them to their deaths. The sailor, Odysseus, was warned about them. In order to stop his men from being seduced by the sirens’ singing, Odysseus had his men block their ears with wax. As the hero wanted to hear the sirens singing, he ordered his men to tie him tightly to the ship’s mast. As Odysseus and his men sailed past the island the sirens inhabited, the men were unaffected by their song, as they could not hear it. Odysseus heard the sirens sing and begged his men to set him free. He lived to tell the tale because he was bound to the mast.

I’ve personally known and also heard of many strong men who fell because their ungodly desire for women stole their hearts from their integrity. Men, what will you do so it doesn’t happen to you?